I haven’t written on here for awhile, with everything going on in the world, roller derby was on pause for over a year. Even when we started training again, it took a bit of time for everyone to remember how to skate and what the rules are.
Mostly, I’m writing here to get all my thoughts down and can one day look back and think, wow, how far have I come? (If I ever get to that stage…)
It’s incredibly frustrating to not be rostered for a game, more so when it’s a series of games and you know you won’t be playing in any of them. We’ll still have scrims that I can play in, but my friends and family can’t come to watch and it makes me wonder what is the point? I told my coach I wasn’t too bothered, as there’s only one game I do want to play in (so a friend who lives far away can watch) but the more I think about it, the less likely it is I’ll be able to play and it’s kinda annoying as I’d said I’d drive up but it almost feels like it’s for nothing? I thought I wasn’t that bothered but a roster got released today and I felt more annoyed that I thought I would. I know things in life aren’t fair, some people are just better at skating than I am and that’s a fact, but when you see people who turn up for our training but don’t do much else with the newer skaters, it gets on my nerves. They don’t have to help the newer skaters, but it’s always the ones who are ‘better’ that don’t seem to help out as much (on the mens team too). Maybe they feel like they did their time when they were in my position? Some of the just passed skaters are going to the mens b team instead of coming to us, so we don’t have enough to make a womens b team and some of us are just in this limbo. I’m also sad that they don’t feel like they can come to us because we seem too intense (but the mens b team is also intense) even though I’m happy they passed their mins after months of training and seeing them grow. I wish I could play with them over some of my other team mates.
Maybe I’ll feel differently about this if I get rostered one day and realise how different it feels, but I don’t want to be rostered and be the worst person on the team as that’s no fun either. I’ll have to figure out ways to get better so that I can hold my own. I probably need to do more off skates/cross training and work out what to do mentally too as it feels like I was a pre mins all over again, with everyone else running off without me. Some of my friends didn’t get rostered either who aren’t bothered, as we mostly came from the old b team so I suppose we’re used to this? I wonder how the league is going to work on this going forward? We had a lot of old a team skaters leave and so once training started again, most of the people were from the b team. Slowly some of a team skaters have been returning and sliding right back in as if nothing had happened, going straight into games/scrims and being rostered immediately. Which I suppose makes sense as if you want to win, you put the best people in…but it definitely sucks for everyone else left behind.
There’s nothing coherent about this post, I’m hoping my team mates don’t see it (not that they’d know it was me to be honest) and it does feel a little cathartic to write it all down so I’m not bottling it all up inside.
Hopefully I’ll feel better in the next post…